Season of the Dark Erotic
Plus...questions to ponder, playlist and course offerings!
I am in between at the moment.
In between what I know to be true and what is emerging.
I am living in the liminal space that exists between dissolution and becoming.
A place where ground falls away and I feel the sweeping, ravishing winds of change.
They are untamed and bring a necessary dissolution of wild fire intensity.
It is a burning of sorts.
One that culls the dead wood making space for the new growth at the change of season.
It is dark here, and shadowy.
Uncomfortable and demanding.
There is reckoning and rupture.
And yet, I intentionally, willingly surrender myself and go.
I have made many such descents in my life, however this one has it own particular flavour.
It is seductive and smooth and brings a salivation to my lips.
Its allure is enticing and it orgasms crack open my heart.
It is terrifying and chaotic, and full of primal passion.
It is the wild abyss that shakes me loose from conformity and containment.
It is ruthlessness and demands my softening and surrender.
I can not think my way through its gateways, as to do so only entangles me more.
Here, at the heart of the darkness I come undone.
Opening my body to more.
I have been riding these waves for weeks now.
Disintegrating into the decaying compost of what no longer serves.
This is the dark erotic.
The shadowy mysteries that in the busyness of Summer, are hard to find.
Here, in the underground, lies the subtle and forbidden.
Eve’s apple and untold truths.
The unspeakable and shame ladened.
All that has been push down and under.
There is a freedom here too, as the outer layers peel away and I dive deeply in murky unknown depths.
A place of re-membering and discovery.
“The dark eros is not merely about violence or infliction of pain. It is the mysterious and often terrifying pull of desire toward what we do not fully understand. It involves the paradox of pleasure and suffering intertwined, as if the human soul cannot know itself fully without embracing the shadows of its own instincts, fears, and longings. This pull toward the darkness is a form of initiation, a journey through the forbidden, that reveals something essential about our humanity." Thomas Moore
Now is the season of darkness.
An invitation to quietening, slowing down and becoming still.
To shed the doing and to listen deeply.
A time of hibernation and sinking down through our roots.
A time of reflection and dreaming.
Of imagination, wondering and pause.
The tones are subtle here, and under currents deep.
Over and over, we are invited to meet our shadows and trust the dark.
For some, this is terrifying and unfamiliar.
For others, it is a welcome relief.
Some of us go willing when the mystery calls.
Others resist and are taken.
However, you journey the dark erotic has many gifts.
Questions for you to ponder…
· Can you slow down, make space and stay curious about the uncomfortable part of your erotic self? Can you be truthful with yourself and own your desires?
· Can you soften and surrender to not knowing and invite hidden parts of your sexual self to emerge? Parts that you are yet to fully know and honour?
· Can you trust the reckoning and meet the truthfulness of your erotic shadows?
· What would support you to stay curious and keep following these threads?
Winter is a time to nourish…
Winter is a great time to invest some energy into nourishing your erotic self and well being. Maybe its time to address some nagging issues around sex and your body. Maybe you want to deepen your skills and find new ways of being in pleasure. Maybe your relationship would benefit from some focused care.
In the quietening and stillness that winter calls us to, we have the opportunity to pay attention, spend time and honour our needs and desires. Just like a vege garden, time spent in nourishing and strengthening the soil, will support the growth and fruits of Summer.
Want a play list to support your Dark Erotic Explorations?
Here is one I recently made. Play it solo or share with others.
Enjoy!
Updates + News…
I am so excited to be assisting at this training in Brisbane at the start of November. The Wheel is foundational to all my work and life and I delight in sharing it with others who also seek to navigate their interaction in ways that feel empowering, respectful and full of integrity.
Please consider adding these skills to you our own offerings and join us for a deep and wonderful dive into the Wheel in November.
Here are the details…
Join us for “Like A Pro”, with certified faculty from The School of Consent
November 5-9, 2025: Meanjin/Brisbane, AU (applications now open)
Faculty are Stella Topaz and Marcia Baczynski
This is our 5-day training for professionals, where you experience The Wheel and then learn how to use it in your practice to make your sessions safe, effective, and satisfying.
Partial scholarships are available for those who are part of or are working with marginalized communities.
Details here: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/like-a-pro
2025 was our Best FEAST yet!!
I am still savoring the incredible joy and aliveness of FEAST 2025. What an amazing group of humans and time we had together.
So many luscious workshops, deep dive experiences and simple pleasures, in a fantastic new venue that already feels like home. The sun was shining, the creek brimming and the vibe was electric.
Thank you to all our valued participants who gave us your trust and showed up with such open heartedness and care. To our incredible team of facilitators, I bow down to the integrity, skill and generosity you all bring. Our program is exceptional because of all of you. To our diligent and joyful vollie team, who humbly served with grace and gratitude - my heart felt thanks. You folk make it all looks so easy! And to our Elders, who lovingly share their decades of wisdom and experience, we honestly couldn’t and wouldn’t want to do it with you.
FEAST is a unique and precious community and I am so proud to be amongst such courageous humans who dare to honour their erotic curiosities and path. My life is all the richer and nourished for time spent at FEAST.
If you would like to stay tuned and join us in May 2026, please join the FEAST list on the button below. We would love to have you there.
Work with me…
I offer individual or couple sessions in person at my home-work studio or via zoom. Sessions are uniquely designed around your learning intentions and we dip into my tool kit of Sexological Bodywork, Somatic Experiencing, Interactive Erotic Education and Embodied Consent, in a way that is most useful to you.
Please reach out if you would like to make a time for a free introductory zoom or phone call.
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